Letter To My Mother

Every year, on April 11th and on August 5th, my siblings and I celebrate the life of our late mother. We shared her with so many people who never hesitate to let us know how much they loved her and what she meant to them. I posted Smile, a poem I wrote in  her memory, on the occasion of her last two babies’ birthday last year. (Funny, after all these years, I realised for the first time today that she birthed her last two children on 08/05 and passed on 05/08. Weird and interesting, right?)

This morning, I received a beautiful, beautiful letter to her from my best friend. I’ve been given permission to share the letter with you. Enjoy…


Hey Mama,

I’m Suliat Banderas*, your daughter.

I know you never got a chance to get to know me before you had to leave but that’s okay, I know you and I have kinda met…. through your sons.

I know you are sitting up in heaven loving and watching out for all of them… Tobi, Ola, Pelumi, Funto and Rachel too! I just pray you find it in your heart to love and watch out for me too…

I wish we got a chance to meet. I can tell you were an absolutely phenomenal woman. I would have loved to hear your amazing stories, see your beautiful smile, maybe get some cooking recipes and come to you for advice whenever I needed it… Especially now!

Oh well, we will all get to meet in heaven and we will talk and laugh till both our mouths ache 😀

I’m sure you already know, but just in case you don’t, your baby and I are in a very serious relationship. He fills my heart with so much joy, mama, its incredible! You did an amazing job raising him and I’m sure you must be very proud at how he’s turning out… I know I am!

Best part is, he’s not even really started yet.

To say I love him, mama, would be the understatement of the century. Your son is my whole world.

I solemnly vow to love, honor, respect and protect him always…. till my dying day. Mama, I will be his backbone whenever he needs support. His Cheerleader whenever he needs encouragement. His companion so that he knows he’s never alone. I will be his lover and his friend… Forever.

I do need your help though, mama… While you’re up there, can you please watch over me and ‘La’s journey? Please be a guiding angel as we go through our life together…

We love you, Mrs Folake Aworinde,
May your spirit continue to Rest in Perfect Peace.

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Love, Your Daughter,
Suliat Banderas

*Suliat Banderas may or may not be a real name.

( ._.)

74 comments on “Letter To My Mother

  1. thatifygirl says:

    Suliat Banderas (-___-) seems like such a beautiful person. I’m sure your mom would be very proud of you both.
    God’s blessings to you and your family, Toks, especially at this time. 🙂


  2. yemijohnson says:

    Beautiful…… I like this. Suliat just made a smile smile in heaven.


  3. Aidee says:

    Beautiful letter…

    I’m sure your mom is proud of you & your siblings. God bless & keep you & yours. 🙂


  4. Sirkastiq says:

    Sigh..Not first…Suliat ey? *snickers*


  5. Belles Pomme says:

    *May her Beautiful Soul rest in Perfect Peace…*

    I’m happy for you Both!


  6. Sirkastiq says:

    “Best part is, he’s not even really started yet.” … Hahahahahahahahaha….of course he hasn’t. I’m sorry, but this is sexual.


  7. Sirkastiq says:

    Before you people will say I’m a punk or an idiot, I already know that ( ˘˘̯)
    Toks mum is uberproud of him tho, the nigga just had to ‘bless’ us with his ‘laundry session”
    No ees not paining me o. Miss Banderas (someone is too in love with Antonio) did a good job with this …LoiL
    Nice one..


  8. tosinOI says:

    Awwwwww I’m sure your mum is super proud of u and ur siblings.

    God’s best to u and suliat o *winks*
    What a cute name -__-


  9. sisijacobs says:

    Awww, I’m so sure your mum is proud of y’all. Wishing you and *Suliat* all the best on your journey, I can just picture your mum cheering you both on


  10. Cheshire says:

    *wipes tears. This is so beautiful.


  11. Sisi Yemmie says:

    Awwww! This is beautiful….


  12. tejaay says:

    why does this letter remind me of the Ugwu picking couple? anyways nice letter thoe and hope u don’t have an ugwu kind-of anniversary next year.


  13. Qurr (@qurr) says:

    😀 Suliat Kan, Ayetoro Kan -__-

    Great write-up. I agree with most of it, which I can personally testify to. Tokunbo is a great guy.

    The memories of the righteous are indeed blessed.

    Rest in Peace, Mrs Aworinde

    P.S. Pssst Congrats, Miss Banderas 😉


  14. gbemisoke says:

    Awww :’)


  15. nubianwaters says:


    May her memories remain blessed!


  16. Best friend huh? Sounds like “Le Lover” to me!
    I hope she’s watching over us that read this blog too


  17. This is beautiful. bless you both!


  18. kovieparker says:

    Beautiful Toks! Really beautiful. This is a lovely letter and I’m sure Suliat is a beautiful person inside and out; I know you are. Bless you!
    P.S. Loff ezz sweet o. Baba God, do for ya baybee gyal. 😉


  19. deolaaa says:

    Awwwwww N.
    I’m sure your Mama is smiling, like we are here.
    Sweet. 🙂


  20. Chica says:

    Awww, this is sweet.


  21. DeMorrieaux says:

    “I just pray you find it in your heart to love and watch out for me too…”

    That really got me.

    I can’t just imagine how it feels.. losing a loved one, let alone losing a parent. I guess, in a way, it really does make you want to live to make them proud.
    I have to remind myself on a daily basis “honour your parents” especially while they are yet alive. It would be too shameful to only love them when departed.

    You’ve done very well, Tokunbo! And I’m sure your mother would be/ is exceedingly proud of you. *bear hug*


  22. Ayomidotun says:

    Mama must be smiling somewhere in heaven.


  23. rhaiharnah says:

    Ejor o.. When is Le wedding? So that l Can come with gbogbo to match and things and be a bigz gehzz??..

    LOOL . *wipes tear*

    May her soul find its due place…

    Strong women I personally believe live long.


  24. Zuriel says:

    This is a beautiful letter.
    God Bless and Keep your family.
    May His Grace be in Abundance to you all.
    God Bless S.B for this letter too…


  25. Dazzle says:

    Awwww beautiful :’) *wipes tears* may your mum RIP and may God bless you and “Le loffa’s” union O:)


  26. icefire says:

    Awww :’)
    Bless her soul.


  27. Sabirah says:

    Awwww (i wonder how I missed this post…)

    This brought tears to my eyes, I’m sure that whereever she is she is happy that you both found each other. Someone special.

    And she is watching over you


  28. dudubeauty says:

    awww…This is so beautiful!

    It’s great to know where a loved one is after death. She is indeed in heaven having a blast and watching over y’all 🙂


  29. helena says:

    wooow… i love the letter…. i want to read it over and over again…


  30. Jk_McDazzles says:

    The only words that come to mind are Purity. Beauty. Love.Joy..
    I’m happy for you both and for your mum too..


  31. May her soul rest in peace


  32. neroafiari says:

    This is BEAUTIFUL. Toks mother is a lucky, blessed woman to have such a great lady that loves her son so much. May God’s blessings rest on Toks and Suliat’s relationship. May both of u continue to bring joy to Mama in heaven.


  33. Aarinolaoluwa says:

    *Weeps* WOW!!!!!!! *sigh* WOW!!! Ok!! Fantastic young Lady…(at this point, I withdraw my proposal, Be good to her Toxic!!!!! 🙂 ) I’m sure Mummy is tres Proud of you!!! Rest on Mrs Aworinde, You have raised great children… *wipes tears*


  34. Damilola says:

    Awwwww! This is so beautiful.


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