Day 22: April

April is the author of one of the testimonies of/from this project. I can’t share the details (yet), but from reading an entrant’s post, she chose to meet their need and I’m really grateful.

Here’s April’s own entry…

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The year 2013 ushered in loud voices in my head, banging and screaming. “You’re going to be 30! Can you believe you’re finally going to end up lonely and miserable?! You have no children! Perhaps you should give your womb up to charity! You’re so fat and ugly! What happens to you now?!”

I’m the type of person that makes lists and write about New Year resolutions, goals and aspirations. My writer friend asked me earlier in the year.

“April, what are your plans for the New Year?”

“Are you talking about my blog or just me?”

She’s a feature writer on my blog and I would have thought she was interested in what I have lined up being the blog author.

“I just need to pass all my exams this year.” I responded.

In August, 2012 while on holiday to Lomé, I took a conscious effort to think about what I’d like to do before the year runs out. Part of my plan was to improve my 9-5 skills as a Human Resources person. The Corporate world is highly competetive and I didn’t want to wait till I get the “Sorry, you cannot be promoted due to your current qualification” mail.

Since I now take full responsibility of my own life, even though I still live under my parent’s roof, I decided to enroll for tan M.Sc. program. I chose to study online because I can’t afford to travel and come back job-hunting all over again.

I realized that if I’d gone back to school immediately after I graduated from the University, I would have made a wrong career choice.

All my life, I’ve always wanted to be a journalist. I was involved in everything related to that profession from primary school till going for the compulsory youth service program. I remember my mentor at CNN doing all she could, from editing my cover letter to coaching me on what I needed to do.

Even though my holiday job was paying me 50,000naira, I opted and took the 10,000naira offer as a youth corper.

“I want to be believe that you know what you’re doing because I don’t understand why you want to dump a better paying job for the stipend you’re being offered.” My mother warned though she gave me her full support eventually.

Three months after I started the youth service program at Silverbird Television, Lagos, I was robbed at gunpoint twice on my way to work. Getting robbed while I couldn’t replace all that was forcefully taken from me with my 10,000naira monthly salary changed my orientation about following my dreams, being happy and making a life.

I was looking forward to becoming a full-blown journalist at the end of the youth service program, but looking and listening to the permanent workers’ woes put me off. I figured at 26, I wouldn’t want to have their kind of lifestyle. I believe passion should constantly put a smile on your face not otherwise. I stopped going to STV immediately after the incident as I wasn’t ready to die for Nigeria.

My experience being a Production Assistant was exciting, fun and challenging. I woke up every morning looking forward to going to work, writing, doing research and meeting people. I was always in the best of spirits even though my meager salary could not keep me for a week.

I started writing after I left STV to Reddington Hospital to complete the youth service program, the comments on my skills was sunshine to my cloudy days. I enrolled at the London School of Journalism with my meager salary for a short course online in Creative Writing and I had the best tutor ever!

I’m currently in the Oil & Gas sector working as a Trade Operator and running my M.Sc. in Human Resources by the side. I update my blog from time to time when I have weeks off school and work duties.

2013 is an awareness for me that I’m going to be highly successful both on my job, in school and life because I’m putting my best to living each day at its best. I’m at the age where I made a lot of promises in the past, one of those promises was that if I was still single at 30, I’d try online dating with many of my interesting readers. I’ve had a bout of terrible, funny and unpleasant dating experiences in the past (including someone who thought I should marry him because he’s British and another who believed I’m better off as a full housewife at my age, and another who thought he couldn’t date me because “your job at Reddington is shitty, you’re not driving your own car and you’ve never been out of your country.” WOW!

I’m also at the age where according to scientific justifications; I’d better hurry up if I want to bear children later in life.

I’m saying to my brand new self that at this stage, it’s really not that bad. I’ve done pretty well for myself and I’m very content with the life I’m living. I’m not going to be single forever, I’m still going to attain greatness, see the world more than I’ve seen, and have beautiful babies for the man that I’m in love with.

I might not be where I want to be, but thank God, I’m not where I used to be. I’m okay, and I’m on my way!

No resolutions, just living each day, knowing I must be better than the day before.

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5 comments on “Day 22: April

  1. Belles Pomme says:

    “I might not be where I want to be, but thank God, I’m not where I used to be. I’m okay, and I’m on my way! . . . just living each day, knowing I must be better than the day before”

    So am I, so am I…

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  2. xavier says:

    I like this. Confident and Honest. Wish my own goals were that clear. 😦

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    • aprillaugh says:

      Awwwwwwwww. Thank you very much! I believe you can achieve whatever you wanna achieve if you put your soul and best into it. Paulo Coelho says: you might not know what you want in life but you must know what you don’t want. I wish you all the best in love and life 🙂

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  3. owgee says:

    Note to self: “I might not be where I want to be, but thank God, I’m not where I used to be. I’m okay, and I’m on my way!

    No resolutions, just living each day, knowing I must be better than the day before.”

    Thank you for sharing, April. Thank you!

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