Day 26: Bankole

*exhales*

When I decided to write this, I thought it was going to be easy peasy. Shebi na to right goal and plans for the year and that’s all? Well now I can write it with ease but when I actually started a week ago, it wasn’t so easy.

First questions is what are my goals actually for 2016? Truth is I didn’t cross into this year with any definitive ones. It’s not that I am disorganized oh (okay maybe I am a little), it’s just that you make all these plans and God has something else in mind so I kind of want to go with the flow. However, I do have hopes for things I want this year and I will share them.

1. Do great in school (again)! Mehn last year was so really hard on me emotionally but I managed to do really great at school and I know it’s only because of God so this year that I am back at it, I hope to still do well. It’s the one thing I have right now and the one thing I can use to make myself proud of me. So I am hoping by September when I am done, it’s with an above 80% average again 🙂

2. Take the Canadian Securities Exams and PASS! So I am going into the financial services industry (well I hope) and I need to take two exams and pass them to work in the roles I want in the industry. Honestly as I write this, I don’t know how I am going to write the exams because the truth is I can’t afford to pay for it right now and because I had to quit my job for school and I’ve been unable to find a new one, I don’t know where I’d get the money. Anyway, I’m hoping God comes through for me and I get to take both exams and pass.

3. Get a job after college: Job hunting is hard. It’s a full time job on its own even when you have the required qualifications and experience not imagine someone like me who really has no substantial experience. I’m hoping and praying I find something that I’d at least be proud to say I do.

4. Make friends: So in the last quarter of 2015 I moved to a new city and it has been lonely as hell. I don’t really have any friends here so I’m mostly by myself and sometimes I think it takes it’s toll on me emotionally. Anyway I’m hoping this year I get to put myself out there more and be more outgoing because well yeah I don’t want life to pass me by.

So those are my major hopes for the year. I really want this year to go well and to be in a better place emotionally, mentally and spiritually because 2015 really wasn’t the best. I typically hate years that end in even numbers but let’s see if this one will break the cycle. Here’s to a wonderful 2016 🙂

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This amazon person will just be showing herself anyhow. But isn’t that what happens when you’re blessed and highly favoured? Your self will just be showing itself. Anyhow too.

More blessings and more favour shall Bankole receive this year. Amen.

Dusk 25: Motunrayo

‘Holed up in my room because I’m sick of all human interaction. It seems like there’s an inverse relationship between my excitement and that of everyone around me. I’m becoming something scary. I don’t know if this is  a process of finding myself or of losing it. I just want to be alone and rid of everyone who’s trying to care. Stay away. I’m changing and I’m freaking the fuck out about it’

This was written one afternoon in december 2015, but it pretty much summed up my whole 2015. It was a bad one, no lie. And I carried the negativity with me into 2016. No hopes, no plans, no goals, nothing. I was just going to freestyle. But what keeps us humans going, if not hope? 

Jer 29:11 ‘For I know the thoughts that I think towards you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.’

I’m taking both. The future and the hope .

Psalm 147:3 ‘He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.’

I’m also taking the healing. For my heart, for my spirit, for my dreams.

John 14:27 ‘Peace I leave with you, my peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give it to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid’.

Those too. Peace, Courage, Strength. Mine. 

The year has started, and January is almost over, but we move still. I started planning a project for easter, whose outcome I may decide to use as a yardstick to measuring my progress so far in 2016. I will miss an exam in February because i didn’t register and attend classes last year (which is not so far fetched since I was a mannequin last year and mannequins do not go to classes or take exams), so in taking disciplinary action on myself, I went and registered for THREE courses online, and paid too. And I have to be done by the first quarter of this year. SMH. If you type ‘congratulations, you played yourself’ into a search bar, you should see a picture of me.

But I have claimed courage and strength abi? So, we move. 

 1 corinthians 2:9 ‘Eye has not seen, nor ear heard, nor have entered into the heart of man the things which God has prepared for those who love Him.’ 

And I do, truly. So, naturally, in 2016, I’m waiting to see His magic in me. 

p.s. Happy birthday PreciousHeart; The complete and absolute love of my life. May the wind ever be at your back. I love you like crazy!


That “Congratulations, you played yourself” line got me cracking up. I expect that in the end though, there will be no playing of self. Because as Motunrayo has claimed, she will see His magic in her.

Day 25: Mosimiloluwa

2015 was a funny year for me.

I used to be one of those Abuja people that say they can never ever move to Lagos for a salary less than N250,000. Well guess what? I moved to Lagos for way less. I had stayed in Abuja for over 19 years trust, me it wasn’t easy moving but I trusted God to take control. So far so good, there has been no regret and I am absolutely enjoying what Lagos has to offer me.

I also decided to update my blog more often which I have been doing. I started reviewing restaurants and more travel locations, got new contributors (Thank you @archfandroid and @azanor :*).

I started my fitfam life while I was in Abuja and i used to do 5k/10k on a steady then I moved and I just didn’t find the time to do it again. Sigh.

You know how you go do a Masters and come back expecting a good paying job that fits into your career path/goal. Well, I came back and I got an offer with a bank but omo the conditions that came with the job was something else. To me it felt like accepting that offer was tying my destiny down for 2 years so I rejected it. After sitting at home for 6 months, I began to regret rejecting the offer. Just when I was losing hope, I got an offer with a Big 4.

I am thankful for the ups and downs of 2015.

2016 (My year of GROWTH)

I want to review lots of restaurants in Lagos, more travel posts. I have lots of things planned for the blog this year. We have the Food/Game Night thingy holding in Abuja soon if you are interested u can mail me (eattechtravel@yahoo.co.uk).

I am a shy person and sometimes it’s hard making new friends and meeting new people. This year, I am going to come out of my shell and meet more people both online and offline and build real relationships. I am a DM away at @mosimi20, we can always bond over food or tech or travel.

I know the career path I want to follow, to be a very good Cybersecurity Specialist but the journey to getting there is a very long and tedious one. I have lots of career goals I want to achieve. Firstly, I want to improve my hacking skills (fear not, I wear the White Hat not a Black Hat). I also want to be great at my job. I know there is so much I need to know and do and also be good at. I am going to spend more time this year improving myself.

I also want to travel a lot more this year both in and out of Nigeria. The plan is to try and see a tourist attraction (if my job permits me). I have got Erin Ijesha and Ikogosi in mind for next month. If you are interested in such, we can plan it together.

I restarted my fitfam life yesterday thanks to the Truppr 5k Run and now I can’t move my hips again (LOL). For someone that used to do 5k/10k on a steady. I need to be consistent in it.

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“Why do you go away? So that you can come back. So that you can see the place you came from with new eyes and extra colors. And the people there see you differently, too. Coming back to where you started is not the same as never leaving.”
– Terry Pratchett, A Hat Full of Sky

Thanks for reading!

P.S: You can subscribe to my blog at eattechtravel.wordpress.com


Whoosh! I really enjoyed this one. Particularly because I can relate so well with almost everything Mosimi’s written. God speed, girl!

Day 24: Nimi

This post has kinda been like last year went for me. Mind so occupied with junk I lose track of the important things.  My apologies to the author of this blog & thank you again for letting us share of this great space.

A look back on last year: Did not go how I wanted it to. It was tougher than I expected in many ways, compartmentalization & grief appears not to go hand in hand most of the time; the number of days that took all I had to just get up in the mornings were more than I’d like to admit. I’m not sure why it was a surprise to me, maybe because I always thought I was stronger than all that ’emotional distress’ stuff.

I’ve decided to call 2015 a recovery year. A year where I was allowed to be a little numb. It has to change in 2016. Life can’t be lived when one is in a haze… well at least when it’s not the good kind of haze.

A look forward to this year: First I want to laugh; that genuine belly laugh till you cry kinda thing. Pure unadulterated joy, feeling alive. I miss that. I’d like that again so I need to get back to doing things that bring it for me, including those deliciously salacious things that have me looking back & smiling every once in a while. Maybe throw in some thoroughly debauched behaviour ever so often 🙂

Second, I need to get back to being creative again. Those senses got so dulled last year & I realise just how big a part of who I am it is. I kept waiting for it to come back to me, the need, the want, to just flow naturally…. well it hasn’t, so i need to do the work and turn that tap on.

Third, I think I neglected friends last year, try as I did, I was there without being truly present. I intend to change that this year. I am surrounded by beautiful people and I need to make sure I’m doing what needs to be done to keep them there.

Fourth…

….well I feel like a fourth may be asking too much, let me ease myself back into this hope thing. I haven’t had too much of it lately.

I hope 2016 is better than 2015… and I intend to make it so.

Happy glorious 2016 to everyone, I wish you all peace, love & vodka (or whatever tipple/vice you enjoy partaking in 😉


Lol. Nimi, or Yvonne, like I like to call her is a character. This piece was somewhat sad but somehow, it made me smile. I dunno, maybe it’s because I picture her smiling most of this year. That might explain it, considering she’s got one gorgeous smile.

Smile, Yve. Smile.

Day 23: Ogenna

You guys, it’s a leap year, turn up.

Hi, Ogenna here, I realized just now, I had to go back to look at posts from people before because I have just realized I am not my own person. Not like that but I need a guide to start writing which even if it isn’t bad, is not very wonderful; but I have decided 2016 is the year I make my own decisions without basing them on people’s opinions. Don’t get me wrong, opinions are welcome. They will be considered, but in the end I will make a conscious effort to have my own train of thought.

I have started an online journal to document my day. I’m trying to fill it every day or every 2 days, it’s going good so far. I can’t complain. I am learning to keep to my word, I tend to make offhand promises and fail to fulfill them, I‘m stopping it. I will stop apologizing for what I feel or don’t feel and who I am. I am trying my best and my best might never be enough for some and that’s okay. No harm, no foul. I will stop inconveniencing myself for people, period.

Moving on, this is the year I become old enough to drink in every country in the world, I’m excited about that but the thing is I am quitting; alcohol I mean. I’m happy actually.

I don’t expect much from 2016 because disappointment kills, it cripples me actually, I’m taking every day as it comes, writing it down and praying for a better tomorrow. I came into this year sad actually. I won’t lie, no matter how much I try not to stress myself or over think, I still do. It’s reduced but I battle with depression occasionally. Not occasionally per se, it’s a lot, but I must be happy. I have to be. This world owes me nothing, nothing at all. I think I’m done.

2016 is just starting and I’m going to list out my goals just in case I forget them, I’m going to come back here to read them;

  1. Graduate.
    I will.
  2. Pray, pray, pray, pray again.
    Talk to my father every day I wake.
  3. Read up to 100 new books this year, Write more.
    Reading takes me where I want to be and writing helps put my thoughts in order, I think it’s a sin to ignore your God given talent.
  4. Buy myself stuff because I’m the only person who loves me almost 80%.
    I save and then spend it on things that I can’t see in the near future, it makes me sad when I’m balancing my account and I can’t seem to find what I spent my money on.
  5. Realize relationships aren’t do-or-die affairs.
    I know you should think of the future and if you don’t see yourself marrying the person you’re with, then you shouldn’t even be together but I can’t kill myself, honestly, I’m young, not that young but I am young.
  6. Learn to play the guitar.
    Stand up poetry goes well with chords from a guitar yunnooooo.
  7. Travel more.
    I am not a tree, no matter how tall I am, I will not grow roots and be fixed to the ground, I am going to try new things, see new places.
  8. Learn a language.  A programming language (lol) and an actual extra language.
    I’ve always put off learning a new language because I assumed I was too old (lol, lol, lol), my thought pattern slays me.
  9. Pay attention to people who love me and appreciate them more.
    I realized I have friends who care about me, and I am making an effort to check on them as much as possible.
  10. Lose weight, stay fit.
    I’m not even big so this is me being extra but I just want to be fit.
  11. Face confrontation head on, not every time ignore.
    I hate confrontations; they make me want to bury my face in my palms and cry, but sometimes they are necessary to move forward in life.

11 because I’m extra. 2015 was wonderful, it was full of ups and downs, horrible experiences and beautiful experiences too, 2016 please be nice to me, I mean I’m Sunshine; me sef I’m a human being.

Smile. 2016 might not be the year everything turns out right but it will be full of beautiful experiences and lessons.


 

I love how Ogenna says she’s not expecting anything from this year and then reels this list of things this yeah must expect from her. Talk about a throwdown yo!

Dusk 22: Oluwadamilola

The Bible says; “hope deferred makes the heart sick.” It’s funny how the Bible is always right. I did not have many dreams when I started 2015; I did not write down or discuss resolutions. In fact, I believe I went into 2015 with the idea that ‘what will be will be’, and so it went. By the time I was half way through 2015, I was in despair and I was yearning for my purpose. I was asking God to awaken me to the point of my entire human existence. I was living with a tremendous amount of fear and trepidation, many things were changing and I felt I was lagging behind. I did not want to live just for the sake of living; I wanted my life and story to have a point. I was asking God not to show me the destination, but instead, to give me the direction and the path I needed to follow. In 2015, I felt lost. 

It was in that melancholy that I started writing again, and started reading again with the voracity I once had. In 2015, I birthed my blog, looking back today, I realise that I actually fulfilled so many dreams in 2015. A Yoruba proverb says; “Bi omode ba dupe ore ana, a ri omiran gba” (when a child shows gratitude for a benefit, he will receive another).  So I put my misery aside and ended 2015 with a grateful heart, as I made a list of all the things to be thankful for in the year gone by. I deferred all other hope into 2016.

Hope for God. There is a vast hole in my heart that only God can fill. I think He put it there, to remind me that He is and has always been the source of my joy. I don’t want to feel far from Him this year. I want to stay as close to His heart as possible.

Hope for friendships. In 2015, I met many people, but in 2016, I want to build real friendships. I realised as 2015 ended that there is a significant amount of superficiality in many friendships, I yearn for a symbiotic relationship built on Christ, love and respect.

Hope for love. In 2015, I learnt that my fear of love was always incorrect. I had often assumed that I’ll never fall, but I realised that was the wrong thing to fear. In 2016, I desire to listen speedily when God says ‘No’ and when He says ‘wait’. I do not want to question the signs I asked Him to show me. I have been obedient on this issue, but I want to obey with immediate alacrity in the future.

Hope for tears. In 2015, I seemed to cry a lot. I seemed to be weary a lot. I desire for that to change. I want to have more tears of joy than of misery in 2016. I hope to focus on the beauty that surrounds me than the storms that overshadow me.

Hope for motherhood. My mother is a great woman, she is always right and has been a mother to so many. In 2016, I want to cherish her more. I thank God for my mum. Today is her birthday; please celebrate her.

When I asked Olatoxic for a chance to write in this year’s #30daysofHope, I had no idea what I wanted to write about. So I chose my mother’s birthday and wished for the best. As I struggled to write, I remembered this poem by Emily Dickinson that describes the meaning of hope;

“Hope is the thing with feathers

That perches in the soul,

And sings the tune without the words,

And never stops at all,”

So I cover 2016 in the Blood of Jesus and declare it to be a year of God, hope and realisation of dreams. I pray that God will awaken you to your purpose and enable you to walk toward your destiny, I pray that you will shed only tears of joy in 2016.

Happy New Year!

Day 22: Demisola

This year started on a good note. Very very good note. First couple of days were super awesome. I was in my feels. I felt nothing could stop me.

Fast-forward.
I’m tired. A consultant asked me today if I was okay because I looked ‘dead’. She asked me to slow it down a bit and all I could think was “Yeah right. Tell me that when you announce in class tomorrow that we are having a test”. I’m actually fatigued. And there’s no public holiday till Easter. My brothers and sisters e be like sey I wan mudd. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
One of my registrar friends told me when this session started that he had been talking with his colleagues and they all went on about how ‘good’ I was. Lol. Me. Good. Chairperson Everlasting Faffers association? Chief Pammist and perpetual crash reader? If you say so o. If you say so. So he made a bet with me. Challenged me to graduate with swag; ‘Best graduating student’. Let me not lie, I laughed my ass off because ‘looooooooool’. But then I thought to myself, “Why the hell not? Yes, you hate med school and everything it stands for, but you’re not even bad at all. All those comments from your patients and lecturers are not just springing  up from nowhere, are they? Very unlikely it happens but would it hurt to try? Even if it’s just one distinction in one random course (which really is more feasible).”  So that’s my number one goal for this year it seems. Only a couple of months to see if my faffing (autocorrect changed that to gagging L.O.L) would get the better of me. (Very likely I have a test tomorrow morning but I’m here eating hindomie and blanket hegg with a lirru bid of spicy asun. First class behavior.)
1. SWAGGED OUT GRADUATION
2. I started a new business last year and boy oh boy… It’s been challenging, but I cannot deny that God that started it with me has great plans. The growth has been shocking. But of course, there’s still room for more.
Please who wants to invest in me?  I have mad plans sugbon eez like a lirru bid of more money is needed. Epp me. Maybe it’s you God is planning to use. Don’t be shy. Please.
(Please visit @case_notes_ on Instagram to see what I do! Custom made phone and laptop cases for all! *cue confetti* )
3. PEPE. Always.
4. If you know me then you know FIT FAM will be somewhere on this list. I’ve never fitfammed but it’s always on my resolution list. This year could be the year of my washboard stomach and toned thighs. Nothing is impossible with God.
5. TRAVEL. Med school has always been the excuse. No more.
6. GOD. CHURCH. I can count how many times I went to church last year. I’m too ashamed to say it sef. For someone whose parents are pastors? Too poor.  There was always an excuse. No fuel. No light. No car. Too far. “Ikeoluwa did you go to church today? Olorun Nikan ni mo fi ko yin o. Alagemo ti bi’mo e tan…“. Heard my mother say that one too many times last year and I’m determined not to have to lie to her everytime she asks this year. So help me God. I’ve been church searching and I might have found one. I’m actually pretty excited.
7. Be. Less. Stubborn. This past year has shown me that the Ekiti blood in me is VERY strong because I no dey gree o. Both of us will die on the line.
8. I was supposed to buy myself a new car last year. Elegushi spender… The money disappeared. This might be the year of the MERCEDES.
9. Throw my mother the best 50th birthday PARTY ever. Aunty Yinka more than deserves it. Ademisola is going to make it happen.
10. Be Happy-er
I had an amazing 2015. I made a conscious effort to be happy last year and it truly can only get better. I have A LOT to be thankful for no doubt, but Oliver Twist…
It’s another year with a lot of hopes… Auto Haven. CaseNotes. Avril. Degree. Mercedes. CommitOrCommot.
2016, wassup, how you doing?

Ademisola is just hilarity with the way she presents her case notes every year. (See what I did there? No?) Her writing gets me eagerly looking forward to her turn on here. But she keeps claiming she’s not a writer. Like being a photographer, business woman and soon-to-be-doctor stops her literary talent from expressing itself. Mscheew.

Day 21: Shade

I promised myself that 2016 will be the year of no drama. Lool. When I said that, I forgot that there are demons here on earth, and not everyone will have sense…… and they will tempt you. Msheew.

Pardon my (lack of) manners. Hehe. My name is Shade and as I was about to start writing this, I gave a conductor N1000 for a N150 fare. Please, it’s not my fault I don’t have change. The conductor actually tapped me and said “Eyys, my friend look here……”

See, it took God and my extra superwoman strength not to lash out at him. I’m a changed woman, you see. The old me would have thoroughly insulted him down to the ancestral spirits that live in his village. But I thank God for Jesus. Amen somebody.

This is how I begin my 2016. Become a more patient person in terms of speech. Serve God more. Be closer to God. Take my self out more. Speaking of which, I went to see a movie a few days ago and they said movie ticket was N1500 *tears* don’t blame me. I haven’t paid for a movie with my money in ages and when I did that yesterday, ‘virtue left me’. But I will not back down. I deserve it! *bites lower lip and cries silently*

I intend to open one more business this year. At least have a space, an office. It has been my dream in forever and it’s going to come through this year. Amen.

Writing this, I’m thinking about all the things I want to achieve and I know I don’t have shigbain, but I absolutely trust that God will come through for me.

I want to take some more trainings this year. The first one I looked at and got really excited, until I peeped the address – ‘Orile Agege’ Ehn? Wait fess. *major side eye to all those who say Festac is far* I think that will have to wait, let me try the other training from YouTube. I kent shout.

I want to do at least 3 trainings this year – The dream is to own a conglomerate and have at least 30 staff by the time I’m 40. And 40 is in less than 7 years *stop trying to guess my age* :p

I should go back to my old choir, or the choir in my new church, or the acting department or photography department. Just do something for God. I’ve been a mere Sunday Sunday meresin for too long. Not good. More than 2 people have asked me “What have you done with your gift?” in the past one week and it strikes a chord each time *sigh*

This year, I’m walking back and walking forward. Big dreams, totally dependent on God and knowing He won’t let me down.

Amen.


Amen o. Please sha invite us for the 34th birthday bash. Aunty, gimme cake.

Dusk 20: Seun

I had great hopes for 2015, it was supposed to be the year, that year, when all the pieces of the puzzle miraculously fell into place and clicked out a perfect picture, it was supposed to be that year when I found out how to utilize my potential and churn out exceptional products, that year when I finally learnt to discipline my mind, and my body, curb my excesses and live fit, happy and successful. Alas, I ended the year 2015 unfit, unhappy and unsuccessful. 2015 definitely had its moments; don’t get me wrong, several false dawns, a couple of Firsts, a few good friends and some truly enjoyable moments, but the whole is a sum of its parts.

Hold up, hold up… I already feel depressed writing about my year, this was not the plan. Well in 2015, I learnt to be grateful, to be grateful for every breath you take, to be grateful for every word you (can) speak and those you (cannot) don’t, for every sincere friend you have and the not so sincere ones, for every moment you were appreciated and even in the moments you aren’t. I learnt that the only way to not commit suicide or die from depression is to live gratefully or is it in gratitude?Whatever.

In 2015, I thought of death more often than ever. No, I wasn’t thinking of committing suicide, I just found myself thinking of death, peaceful death, protracted death, violent death. Maybe it’s because I worked in a hospital for a huge chunk of the year; I also found myself staring the fear of failure in the face so many times that there were days I just curled up on my bed and did nothing but play games while feeling like an unaccomplished piece of putrid poo.

In 2015, I had a number of good friendships just cool down all of a sudden, and no matter how hard I tried to revive the friendship or put some life back into it, it felt like I was trying to punch a hole in a wall made of steel, with my head. In the end, I felt I was always the desperate one, clinging to a wisp of smoke, a memory of what had been. I guess I learnt to deal with loss.

2016 is going to be a much better year for me than 2015 was. In 2016, I hope to:

  1. Learn graphic design finally
  2. Get my first book published
  3. Blog more often, I also hope more people read my blog
  4. Grow spiritually. 2015 wasn’t a good year for me spiritually.
  5. Tell more people about Jesus
  6. Increase my income, and create a third income stream
  7. End the year with a weight of 70Kg maximum
  8. Cherish family and friends more than ever. I’m on a ‘one I love you daily’ plan where I tell at least one person I love them everyday
  9. Be very, very happy.

I pray for you guys that 2016 will be your best year yet, a year of self-realization, fulfillment, career advancement, love, good health, peace, joy, a closer relationship with God. You’ll end the year with testimonies, fam. Peace.


It’s always a pleasure and an inspiration to see people rise beyond  “…the previous year didn’t work out quite like I hoped” and go on to hope against hope and scribe well laid plans for the new year. Seun is certainly no exception to this.

I agree with you, Seun. 2016 is going to be a much better year for you than 2015 was. Amen.

Dusk 19: Moyin

I’ve been trying to write this for days now and I have not been able to.
I think there’s a part of me that is worried to hope because what is the point of hope?
I mean, I do this every year and I cringe when I go back the next year to read all the things I wrote because more than half have not been achieved. In fact I think I came into this year with that thought at the back of my mind. What is the point of hoping?
But I guess hope is the very thing that makes it all worth it, isn’t it? I mean, if we never thought that we could achieve our goals or our dreams- get that promotion, be married, have kids, bla bla bla what is the point? So no, I am not giving up on hope, I am just trying to be kinder to myself. I have decided that some of the goals I will write this year are things that are achievable instead of the ‘big’ things I usually write. So this year the things I’m actually writing down are the things I will actually do. Here goes:
 
1.  Run 30 minutes without stopping to catch my breath: I figure instead of saying I will lose a certain amount of weight, I will do something physical instead. I have signed up to do a 5K in June so if I don’t achieve this goal, I don’t even know for myself again oh.
2.  Only buy single serving desserts.
3.  Read at least 100 books and track my reading like this
4.  Go on holiday. Twice.
5.   Spend more time alone than with people: I get my energy when I’m by myself so this is a no-brainer but it’s something I’ve struggled with, so I’m hoping to give myself permission to be by myself with my books. LOL
6.  Sit with my feelings: I am the classic evader. I hate feelings. All of them. But this year I want to stop watching TV mindlessly or listening to grime at top volume at 2am and have my neighbour come knock my door with her baby in hand (true story) instead of actually question what is behind the melancholy that falls on me from time to time. I want to feel my feelings this year no matter how good or bad or messy they may be.
7.   Be the best me at my job. Not the best at my job because that’s just cause for wahala and exhaustion; but the best me at my job because I have a unique contribution I’m bringing to work. I need to own it and stop trying to be someone else at work.
8.   Make God the first person I talk to about anything.
9.   Do what God says and be more honest with him.
10.  Wait till the next morning to make big decisions, send that text, letter or email.
11.  Do something social every week (outside of work)
12.  Check in with long distance friends once a month
13.  Comment on blogs
14.  Trust that there’s a plan
 
God can do anything, you know—far more than you could ever imagine or guess or request in your wildest dreams! He does it not by pushing us around but by working within us, his Spirit deeply and gently within us.
-Ephesians 3: 20-21 (The Message)

Moyin is one of the dearest people to me and I’m tremendously proud that she took the leap to do this and continually too. Because it’s harder for some of us than others. *cue one-man standing ovation*